The 1 Conversation That Changes Everything

Hi friend,

It feels good to write to you today.

Here’s an uncomfortable truth about self-improvement: Most of us struggle because we won’t accept what it truly takes to become the person we want to be.

The version of you that achieves those big goals?

That person has different habits, a different mindset, and a different lifestyle than you do right now.

And here’s the truth:

Sometimes, you need to look inward and ask: "Am I actually willing to become that person?"

But you need to be honest with yourself about it.

The Self-Awareness Check

1. Visualize Your Future Self
   Who is this person you want to become? What do they do daily? How do they think? What have they given up? What have they gained?

2. Audit Your Willingness
   Are you truly ready to adopt those habits, routines, and mindsets? If not, you’re setting yourself up for a cycle of guilt and frustration.

3. Decide: Commit or Release

   • If you’re all in, embrace the discomfort. The work is the price of admission.

   • If you’re not ready, give yourself permission to let go of that desire—for now, or forever. It’s better than half-hearted effort.

Here’s the hopeful part:

The biggest transformations often require just 12–18 months of focused effort. 

Lock in for a year of discipline, and you could set yourself up for a lifetime of rewards.

But most people quit at month 3.

This Week's Challenge

Let's do this together, right now:

1. Pause for 60 seconds

2. Ask yourself: "What do I truly want? And am I willing to become the person who achieves it?"

3. Listen - not to your fears, but to your gut

No judgment. No shame.

Just the liberating clarity that comes from radical honesty.

I'm doing this too. This week, I'm looking at my own goals and asking: "Is this still me?

Am I willing to pay the price?" Some dreams might get released.

Others will get recommitted to - with eyes wide open.

Because the freedom in this exercise is simple:

You don't have to chase every goal. Just the ones worth becoming someone new for.

On this journey with you,

Uthman